5 Clever Ways to Get a Guy's Number

You do it with "prompts." They significantly reduce the risk of rejection because he’s basically asking you to ask him for his number.

But in order for him to prompt you, you’ve got to hit one of his hot buttons. Let’s say in your conversation you discovered a mutual love of art. But he hasn’t been to XYZ art gallery...

You: I usually go to XYZ art gallery once every month. 

Him:  Oh how fun! I always wanted to go there! (Prompt)

You:  They have a new opening this Friday. Give me your number, we’ll go.

The Afterthought Approach

You’re talking for a good bit. You excuse yourself because of a time constraint...

You: “Hey, I had a great time talking to you. Thanks for the great conversation, but I’m meeting some friends and I’m late.

Him: “Oh, okay.” (surprised)

You: (Walk away, then suddenly turn back) “Hey, I just thought of something. How are we going to continue this if I don’t have your phone number?"

Pretend You’re Worried He’s A Stalker

Example: “You know what? I need to get going. Why don’t you give me your number and we’ll chat later. But, please, promise me one thing. NO stalking, ok? Don’t be sending me hundreds of text messages a day, PLEASE.”

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Tell Him To Give You His Number

Never frame the request in a way that can be answered yes or no. You won’t be as confident because there’s a real possibility he’ll object. You need to act as if giving you his number is the most natural thing in the world. One of the most effective lines you can use is:

"Why don’t you write down your phone number for me?"

It sounds like you’re asking him to give you his number, but you’re actually telling him (nicely) to give it to you. It’s a great way of expressing confidence, not desperation.

Hint: Even asking, "What is your phone number?" is definitely better than "Can I have your number?"

Go For The Date, Not The Number

Example: “I think we should hang out some time for a _______.” 

It could be a coffee, a drink, a walk in the park. But that’s it. You’re not posing a question as much as you are a prompt.

If he says yes, you’re in. Well, not yet. Take his number first.

The Neutral Dominance Method

Example: “Hey you’re cool. We should chat later. What’s your number.” 

Notice it’s a question, but there is no question mark. The tone is neutral dominance. There is no approval-seeking tonality. 

As opposed to, “Can I pleeeeaase have your number?”